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3 signs you have an anxious attachment style.

Attachment styles, created in childhood, have a profound influence on our adult relationships, more than most are even aware of. We hear the terms thrown around but often we don't really understand what it means for us, I recently ran a poll on the Instagram page a 66% of people didn't really understand their attachment style.


An anxious attachment style, characterized by a deep fear of abandonment and a constant need for reassurance, can significantly impact the way we connect with others.


In this blog post, we'll dive into three signs that you might have an anxious attachment, explore the roots of this attachment style in childhood or trauma, and provide actionable solutions for creating healthier connections.


1: Constant Need for Reassurance:


Individuals with an anxious attachment style often seek frequent reassurance from their partners, fearing abandonment or rejection.


2: Fear of Abandonment:


Anxious attachers may have an intense fear of being abandoned, leading to clingy behaviour and a heightened sensitivity to relationship dynamics.


3: Overanalysing and Catastrophizing


Anxious attachers may find themselves overanalyzing interactions and catastrophizing potential scenarios, imagining the worst outcomes. This heightened vigilance is a protective mechanism developed in response to past experiences.


Where did it come from ?


As mentioned at the beginning of this blog post our childhood plays a big role in how we connect with others as adults, usually our main caregivers and the dynamics we have with them create blueprints from which we learn about relationships from.


Anxious attachment often stems from inconsistent caregiving during childhood. If caregivers were intermittently available or responded unpredictably to a child's emotional needs, it could contribute to the development of an anxious attachment style.


Trauma during childhood, such as loss, separation, or unpredictable family dynamics, can imprint an anxious attachment style. These experiences shape a child's perception of relationships, leading to a heightened fear of abandonment and a constant need for reassurance to feel safe, worthy and loved.


How to nurture healthy connections


Did you resonate with the above and are like okay cool but what next?! Unraveling the threads of anxious attachment requires self-reflection, understanding, and a commitment to change. By recognizing the signs, exploring the childhood roots, and implementing actionable solutions, you can start on a transformative journey towards creating secure connections.


Healing from an anxious attachment style involves not only addressing the symptoms but also looking into the past, understanding the origins, and actively working towards a more secure and fulfilling approach to relationships.


Try these below:


Develop Self-Awareness: Recognize and understand the signs of anxious attachment. Self-awareness is the foundation for initiating change and creating healthier connections.


Communicate Openly: Express your needs and fears to your partner openly. Effective communication can help create a secure emotional environment, reducing the need for constant reassurance.


Seek Professional Support: Consider seeking therapy or counseling to explore the roots of your anxious attachment style and develop coping mechanisms for healthier relationships.


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